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Anyone who is been in the pro-life movement for a while has been
confronted with the argument “Shouldn’t abortion be legal in cases where
the woman has been raped?”
Even though, according
to Planned Parenthood’s own statistics, less than 1% of all abortions
are performed on women who were raped or were victims of incest,
pro-choice activists insist that abortion must be legal for these
women, even if it leads to thousands of women a year having abortions
for other reasons.
In fact, Roe v. Wade was
based on the rape argument– Norma McCorvey, the plaintiff Jane Roe,
claimed that she had been gang-raped and needed an abortion. Years
later, she admitted that the rape story was false and was made up in
order to garner sympathy for the pro-choice cause.
Pro-choicers have been
very successful in convincing the general public that rape victims
need abortions. Implied is the belief that women who are pregnant by
rape cannot possibly want their children, that they could never be
happy giving birth, and that it is completely unnatural for a woman to
want to have a rapist’s baby.
When pro-choice
activists argue that abortion must be legal in cases of rape, there is
always one thing missing from their rhetoric – the voices of women who
were raped and kept their babies. These are the people whom the
pro-life and pro-choice movements should be listening to. These are the
people who are intimately acquainted with the emotional trauma of rape
and the horror of a pregnancy resulting from rape. And what they’re
saying may surprise you.
Kathleen DeZeeuw, the
mother of a child conceived in rape, spoke out against pro-choicers who
were making the argument that abortion must be legal in cases of rape:
I, having lived through
rape, and also having raised a child ‘conceived in rape’, feel
personally assaulted and insulted every time I hear that abortion
should be legal because of rape and incest. I feel that we’re being
used to further the abortion issue, even though we’ve not been asked to
tell our side of the story. (1)
How should people respond to a woman who has been raped and is considering abortion? DeZeeuw says:
As I stated before, a woman
is most vulnerable at a time such as this, and doesn’t need to be
pounced on by yet another act of violence. She needs someone to truly
listen to her, care for her, and give her time to heal. (2)
DeZeeuw claims that
many times, rape victims are pressured into having abortions by those
around them. People are often very uncomfortable around a rape victim.
They don’t know how to deal with her trauma, they don’t know how to
comfort her, and many times they wish the problem would just go away,
that she would “get over” it. These feelings are exacerbated when the
rape victim is pregnant. When they say that a rape victim is constantly
reminded of the assault by her pregnancy, they are actually saying
that they themselves are constantly reminded of the assault by seeing
her pregnant. While it is true that being pregnant after rape is very
traumatic, rape victims who have kept their children often say that
they wish the people around them had been more supportive.
Statistics about rape
victims and abortion are surprising to many people. There have been two
studies done about pregnant rape victims. In each study, 70% of the
women chose to keep their babies. This defies the stereotype that all
raped women want abortions. According to the two doctors who conducted
one study, Sandra Kathleen Mahkorn, M.D. and William V. Dolan, M.D.:
[This study indicates] that
pregnancy need not impede the victim’s resolution of the trauma;
rather, with loving support, nonjudgemental attitudes, and empathic
communication, healthy emotional and psychological responses are
possible despite the added burden or pregnancy. (3)
The second study,
conducted in 2000, revealed that 78% of the 30% of women who had
abortions after their rapes felt that they’d made the wrong decision
and said that “abortion is not the answer for women who were raped.” In
contrast, not a single one of the 70% who had their children regretted
it. Some of these women had given up their babies for adoption, and
some of them had kept their babies – but the unifying factor among all
of them was that none of them regretted giving birth.
The statistics
seem counterintuitive and almost impossible to believe. But they are
true. Women who have their babies often have a better psychological
outcome than women who do not. One woman who had an abortion after her
rape spoke at a pro-life rally in Mississippi. Here is an excerpt from
her testimony:
I was raped a month before I
turned 18. And because of that rape I was so fearful and so shameful
that I chose abortion, out of fear. My rape was nothing compared to
what I did to my child. What my rapist did to me does not compare to
what I chose to do to my baby. My rapist didn’t kill me, I’m standing
here alive right now. I have three beautiful children at home and a
husband who loves me. But I chose to kill my child out of the shame,
out of guilt, out of fear because of what a man did to me. Rape is no
excuse for abortion. I want to say that. … I’m tired, as a person who
was raped and a person who had an abortion, I’m telling you right
now, I’m tired of using rape as an excuse. … For years I lived in
depression, contemplated suicide, attempted suicide, I spend years
drinking to numb the pain, to numb the horrific nightmares, was later
diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder, not just because of the
rape but because of the abortion. We have got to speak up, it’s not
just about the babies, it’s about the moms like me who think they’re
making a good decision but they’re not.
Another woman who was raped and had her baby speaks out:
We are so under represented
in the media…..but we might have to fight back with brutal honesty to
show up the lies. I was raped, suppressed it and a growing belly for 7
months, had a baby girl, and placed her for adoption. If you hear
anyone use the stupid line again, “well what if you were raped, then
why should you have to carry to term a baby?” Pleas [sic] refer them to
me! I’m sick of them persuading people on stuff they don’t even bother
asking a real woman that has been through it …Why do they assume
automatically women can’t handle it? Two wrongs don’t make a right. I
am so mad at the abortion industry, I can’t explain it. It’s just that
they would made it so easy for me to walk in the door and kill my
daughter that first day I found out I was pregnant (without telling my
parents or anyone first) luckily I didn’t thanks to God taking over. My
opinion on everything changed full over after just a few days of
letting the fact that this is a little life, sink in. But they made it
so easy for me to kill my daughter, and since she means the world to me
today, this grudge isn’t going to ever go away[.] … (5)
Another woman was grateful that her rape occurred before Roe versus Wade and she did not have the option of abortion:
Never, in the years after
her birth, did I ever regret giving life to my daughter. However, there
have been many times when I have looked back grateful that no state
legislature had provided an easy, instant answer of a free abortion for
me. I’m grateful because, at that time, I might have bought into the
lie that an abortion would fix all my problems. But fortunately that
temptation wasn’t there. (6)
Another woman who was raped and had her baby, identified as Sharon, says:
There is no doubt in my mind
that abortion should be discouraged. Abortion is a terrible way of
dealing with a pregnancy resulting from rape, although I suppose it is a
way for people to ignore the victim and her needs. (7)
Rape counselor Joan Kemp agrees:
After sexual assault there
is, for varying lengths of time, a natural revulsion toward anything
associated with the rape. That may include the location, or
characteristics of the rapist such as clothing, race, mustache, etc. It
is normal for this feeling to attach to the unborn child conceived in
rape. However, these feelings normally fade with time. When this does
not happen spontaneously, counseling with someone qualified to treat
rape victims is highly effective. Rape victims I have worked with were
quite aware and distressed by the inappropriateness of these feelings.
They would not, for instance, have welcomed anyone telling them that
men of their attacker’s race are natural criminals. Nor do women
welcome being told that their children conceived in rape are unworthy
of life, genetically prone to crime, and bound to feel unwanted and
bitter. A person in crisis is seeking positive solutions, not a counsel
of despair. (8)
Lee Ezell, author of the book The Missing Piece (Servant Publishing) was raped and became pregnant. She describes meeting her daughter, whom she gave up for adoption:
We met for the first time
just a month after our first phone conversation. There are no words to
describe my exact feelings as Julie walked into my hotel room.
Here was the child whose
memory I’d hidden in my heart for so many years, the child who has
given me my first grandchildren[.] …
She embraced me. We cried.
Bob [her husband] said with all the love in the world in his voice:
“Thank you for not aborting Julie. What would my life be like without
her?”
…
Finding my daughter has
enriched my life beyond measure. The couple, who adopted her, Eileen
and Harold Anderson, are beautiful people.
Julie, Eileen and I have
been speaking to various groups about what happened to us. I guess our
message is that just as bad things can happen to good people, so can
something beautiful come from a wicked act. Julie is living proof of
it. (9)
A woman who was raped and had a child wrote a letter to the editor:
Consider my beautiful
daughter, Jessica. She is eight months old, has no teeth but a full
head of hair and seems to be developing a fondness for Apple juice. She
is loved by me, her grandparents, her uncle and her two sisters more
than words can say.
She is also a child conceived during a rape.
I was raped in 1992. I did
my civic duty and reported the rape. I worked with the assistant
district attorney to prosecute my assailant. He was eventually
pronounced “not guilty” because date rape is difficult to prove.
When I discovered I was pregnant from the assault, I was horrified. I debated long and hard over what choice I should make.
Common sense would dictate that an abortion was the answer, right?
Wrong. No matter how hideous my child’s conception had been (and rape is
a degrading, demoralizing act that alters one’s whole life), I knew
that there was a life growing inside me. I chose to accept this child is
being my baby – not the rapist’s. My friends and family supported me
100%, but the choice was mine to make and I know I made the right one.
All children are gifts from God. It makes no difference how they are conceived.
I feared I would see my
rapist’s face every time I looked at my child – but I don’t. I see a
beautiful, happy, little girl who wasn’t planned and wasn’t the result
of an act of love – but nonetheless is loved very, very much. (10)
The woman who gave
this testimony is not the only person who fell in love with a child
conceived by rape. Rebekah Berg, who was raped and chose to give life
to her son, told the following story in Courageous, the new book by Kristin Hawkins which profiles pro-life young pro-life activists from around the country.
My son is the product of
rape, and he is the exception to the rule, as they say. Multitudes of
women in my situation have had abortions, giving different reasons for
their choice. But that child is still a child, no matter how he or she
was conceived. I certainly did not choose to be raped and definitely
did not choose to become pregnant. No more did my child ask to be
conceived. I had no right to take his life because of the horrible
situation that happened to me.
The thought that he would
bear the same genes of my rapist was one of the questions that continue
to linger at my soul during my pregnancy. Was I going to birth another
rapist? Was I doing more harm than good with giving him life? My own
son’s gentle spirit and thoughtfulness of others confirms that there is
not a “rapist gene.” When I look into my son’s eyes, I only have love
and have only loved him since he was laid on my chest after birthing
him. (11)
None of these women
who chose to have their children after rape would say that their
decision was easy. The trauma of being raped can haunt the victim for
the rest of her life. But adding abortion to that trauma often
exacerbates the situation.
These women, and
thousands of others, have discovered that giving birth to their babies
allowed them to rise above the rape, to commit a truly selfless act,
and to heal. It is most of all important for rape victims to have the
support of those around them, whether they are pregnant or not. In
cases where they are pregnant, we should not give them “the counsel of
despair.” Rather, we should encourage them to make a choice that both
they and their baby can live with. We should remember that when we
oppose abortion in the case of rape victims, we are not just saving
babies – we’re helping women as well.
- David C. Reardon, Julie
Makimaa, and Amy Sobie. “Victims and Victors: Speaking Out About Their
Pregnancies, Abortions, and Children Resulting From Sexual Assault”
Springfield, IL: Acorn Books 2000) p 46
- Ibid.
- Sandra Kathleen
Mahkorn, M.D. and William V. Dolan, M.D. “Sexual Assault and Pregnancy”
in Thomas Hulgers, Dennis Horan and David Mall, “New Perspectives on
Human Abortion” (Frederick, MD: University Publications of America,
1981) 194
- David C. Reardon, et
al. “Victims and Victors: Speaking Out About Their Pregnancies,
Abortions, and Children Resulting From Sexual Assault”
- Message to Pro-Life Blogs February 8, 2009 http://www.prolifeblogs.com/articles/archives/2009/02/abortion_after.php
- David
C. Reardon, et al. “Victims and Victors: Speaking Out About Their
Pregnancies, Abortions, and Children Resulting From Sexual Assault” 94
- David
C. Reardon, et al. “Victims and Victors: Speaking Out About Their
Pregnancies, Abortions, and Children Resulting From Sexual Assault” 89
- Joan
Kemp “Abortion: The Second Rape” SisterLife, Winter 1990 Feminists for
Life of America, 811 E. 47th St. Kansas City, MO 64100
- Lee Ezell “I Was Raped” Lovematters.com advertising supplement, Vol. 18, 2009
- Tamara L Roleff. Abortion: Opposing Viewpoints (San Diego, Greenhaven Press, 1997) 137-138
- Kristin Hawkins. Courageous: Students Abolishing Abortion in This Lifetime (Students for Life of America, 2012) 16